Personally, I have struggled with saying "no" for a very long time, and I know many of us struggle with it too. But it's just that saying "yes" is so much easier than saying "no," and some of us prefer to take the easy way out of situations. We forget, however, that while it might be easier now, saying "yes" so many times also leads to the difficulty of saying "no." And this is probably why many of us now find ourselves overworked, stressed, resentful and exhausted.

Last Monday, I shared some wisdom with you from Shonda Rhimes, from a commencement speech she gave to graduates of her alma mater, Dartmouth College.  In that same commencement speech, Shonda Rhimes reminded us that when we say "yes" to certain things, we are saying "no" to something else. "We can't have it all!" It's either one or the other. The unfortunate thing, for many of us, is that when we say "yes" to others, we are choosing to say "no" to ourselves. But, don't worry, there's hope for those of us with the "yes" disease, and it's this:
"When you say "no," to the less important things in life, you open up that door to your inner essence where all the "yeses" live. So that saying "no" now allows you to concentrate on the things that are most important to you." So, isn't it time for you to start saying "no" to others and start saying "yes" to yourself? Your goals are important too, and your success is essential to your well-being. Of course, saying "yes" to others may be easy now, but is it worth the price of resentment you will feel later? No.
I encourage you this week, to take a look at your to-do list and cross off all the things that do not contribute to the achievement of your goals. You can't do it all if your aim is to achieve a specific goal. Let some things go, and focus on what needs to be done to get you to the end-game.


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