No one likes a cheater, or to become the victim of someone who cheats, and yet many of us are ourselves cheaters. Our victims? Ourselves. Yes, we cheat ourselves in several ways every day. Sometimes, we are aware of it, and sometimes we are not. Either way, one of the worst things we can do to ourselves, outside of depriving ourselves of self-love, self-care and self-motivation, is to cheat ourselves.

"We cheat ourselves when we undervalue ourselves, hide our talents, deny our sense of creativity, and convince ourselves that we are not capable or deserving of better, of more, or, of the best."

I was once cheated out of a deserving salary. It still stings to this day; knowing that I willingly settled for less than I deserved. But never again! It was on the day of my exit interview. (I had decided to take the next step in my career journey.) There I sat in the Human Resources office, answering the basic questions and filling out the requisite forms, when the director looked at one of the forms and proclaimed incredulously, that I had been underpaid for someone of my position and with my level of expertise. The truth is that I knew this already, from talking with my peers in the same profession who also worked in the same geographical location as me. And the fact is also that I had discovered this fact over a year ago but avoided addressing it because I was afraid that if I did, I would no longer have a job - which is funny because even though I still quit, I was more than okay.

When we cheat ourselves, we leave the door open for others to cheat us too. I have no doubt that the powers that be knew very well that they were underpaying me. But who can blame them when I was okay with cheating myself? The way we value and treat ourselves is a good indicator of how we permit others to treat us. So, please, do me a favor and go into this week determined to hold yourself in high esteem. Don't cheat yourself out of the things you need and deserve, and others wouldn't even dare do the same! You have it in you and you deserve to do what you love, and receive what you are worth. Believe it, and others will have no other choice than to believe it too.

Happy Monday! I wish you a blessed and fruitful week ahead.


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